Comparison-The Thief of Joy

A couple weeks ago we were counting down the days until Thanksgiving and now it’s almost Christmas! Time flies by so fast. The semester is almost over? What? I know that for a lot of us it’s crunch time, so here’s a little something that might make these next weeks more enjoyable as you finish up. If you’re not in school, it’s still a good read.

Let’s start with a quote, as we often do around here.

“There are not enough hours in the day” -Everyone

Most days this is SO completely accurate in my life. There is so much to do, BUT not having enough time is just an excuse, we still make the time for what matters most.

This week I tried something different; I had time for more meaningful things.  I ended up taking even more out of this little experiment than I thought I would.

Social Media Fast

“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” ~Steve Furtick

1. Reduce your time on social media.

2. Redirect your focus on the things that really matter.

It’s not like Social Media takes up an unhealthy amount of my time but it does feed my craving for any sort of distraction when I actually need to get something meaningful done. Shout out to Kate for joining me.

I had more time for scheduling my day out to fit in the things that really mattered, I  went to bed on time (no nightly scrolling), studied (actual studying), spent time in the scriptures, and most important of all…kept my head up.

Keeping my head up in both the literal and figurative sense. First of all, you notice such a difference when your phone is left in your bag and isn’t glued to your palm. Second of all, you focus on yourself and not about who is doing what, who is getting engaged to who and comparing yourself to someone that has better hair than you! Social media is meant to be good, it isn’t meant to make us feel bad about ourselves.

IMG_6521Check out that bowl cut.  There’s a reason I bring out these old family pictures. Normally I wouldn’t embarrass myself like this but here’s my “highlight reel” Don’t compare because… it’s not glamorous or perfect in any way.

IMG_6515tupacSome of us were dressed  up like Tupac.

IMG_6516Insert caption here.

IMG_6524Some of us loved puka shell necklaces and insisted on including their guinea pigs in the family Christmas card. RIP.


For those of you still looking to compare, let’s talk about that grass. Yeah, it’s SO green but it isn’t necessarily greener than yours. I just loved what Nekel shared a couple weeks back about greener grass. This year was the first time we re-seeded our grass in years. It’s NEVER that perfect. Yes, we take pride in its lusciousness this year, but we all know that in the Arizona summer it is going to scorch away and we will be taking it out. We can’t compare. This picture took about 5 tries. You know when everyone is just frustrated with the fact that the dog pile tradition still exists but you do it anyway? That’s the smile we pasted on.  I mean, I think my family is perfectly adorable, but so are your families! We all have our imperfections; embrace your perfections!

The point is, we’re all different and it will always be that way! Time flies, it changes and it also changes us but, we can’t let it aimlessly go to waste. Capture the moments. The good, the bad, the happy the sad and then think of this quote:

“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must kealbertep moving.”

-Albert Einstein




Life goes on. So those of you that have slaved away all semester and are still on that C borderline, you’re doing okay. It isn’t the end of the world. For those of you that compare yourselves to others like crazy, STOP. Comparison is the thief of joy. For those of you that are going through one of the hardest trials of your life, you must be pretty strong so stick it out. I admire you. It won’t last forever. In fact, it will make you even stronger.

“Comparing our blessings with those of others is almost certain to drive out joy. We cannot be grateful and envious at the same time.” –Elder Quentin L. Cook

Let us all take time to be ourselves. Take a break from the screens and live. Don’t compare. Your life is your life and it’s amazingly beautiful. Our Heavenly Father created us the way we are for a reason, embrace it.

Use your time wisely to do and think about the things that really matter.

You matter to Him.




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